
I hope today finds all members of our community rested, relaxed, refreshed and renewed. As the annual break approaches each year, I always wonder why we have it. As a young girl growing up in Kansas City, I never remember having a week off in the middle of the year, but now as an adult I am thankful for the respite and reflection this time provides. At breakfast this morning I noticed how happy the children were to be back in school, connect with friends, and update me on their “adventures” during their time off. I realized we all need this time – staff, parents, and especially the children.
This week’s message is on the issue of control. I learned quite a bit about my own capacity to gain and release control this past Spring Break, and the realization that I really have very little control over life’s events, but I have total control over my response to those events. Nothing made this fact more clear this past week than technology. I was unable to access or send email for a week, and had very limited and inconsistent text messaging ability. At first, this was quite frustrating and scary, but after a day or two, quite liberating and refreshing. Without our smartphones and laptops, my daughter and I had conversations, read books, slept, shared stories with friends over meals, and just enjoyed life. All of the members of our group also quickly realized how reliant we have become on our technology to communicate and coordinate. We could not send a text to say “meet me at 10:00” or “where are you?”, we had to go find that person, and communicate face-to-face to let them know we wanted to be with them and share the day, or that we were alright.
Those of us who are older remember as children, leaving the house in the morning, and being told to come in “when the street lights come on”. Yes, it is a very different time, and no, we would never do that with our own children today, but I do wonder how our parents were able to remain calm and feel secure without the ability to ‘check in’ with us at a moment’s notice. While the ‘technology break’ was satisfying, I must admit to checking my phone every hour on the last day of my trip, and as soon as I could, got on my email to check in and communicate with my staff, friends, and family. The week off also made for a very quiet trip home, as all the teenagers were engrossed in checking their Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram, Twitter, and I do not know what else. The bright side to all of this is that our children, and succeeding generations will have gained a facility with technology that most of our generation will never possess. The openness, willingness, and opportunity to access technology, media, and communication really are traits and skills of which our children are able to take advantage. While none of us will ever be able to totally control technology, our attitude toward its strengths and weaknesses will determine its utility and benefit in our lives. As I think about this more, we could use this as a metaphor for all facets of our lives such as relationships, policies, and events. Cancelled flights, natural disasters, SNOW IN MARCH, misunderstandings and hurt feelings are examples of frustration, tragedy and discomfort, but all can be overcome by our ability to accept and respond with a positive attitude. Of course, we are not perfect, and we cannot always summon the ‘bright side’, but we can commit to always trying.
So happy everyone is back! Peace, Erin